Some authentic feelings may have been forbidden in early family life. Other feelings (or ‘Racket Feelings’) may have been allowed as replacements for the ones that weren’t allowed. Some feelings were forbidden In family situations it is likely that expressing …
Are you old enough to remember Green Shield stamps or Coop stamps? Each time we made a purchase in a certain shop, we were given a sticky stamp to stick in a savings book. When the book was full of …
This is an idea borrowed from Buddhism with a little help from Transactional Analysis. Imagine standing by a river which is flowing from left to right. On the left, feelings arise and come to the water’s surface, they flow past …
Would you like to understand your feelings better? Perhaps you have questions like; Why do I always end up feeling this way? Why won’t this feeling just ‘go away’? Why should I feel like this now? I’ve been it some …
Why have feelings? What’s the point? Feelings are natural reactions to real situations. They have a physical and a psychological impact. They are useful because they give us information about the situation we are it. Not having feelings would be …
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Having a panic attack is certainly a frightening experience and may leave you wondering ‘what’s wrong with me?’ ‘Am I ill?’ ‘Am I going mad?’ A useful, four-fold approach to dealing with panic is; Clarification Normalisation Coping Exploration This approach is …
Is the Endless Struggle of Work or Life causing Stress? – Here’s some information that will help – It’s OK to ‘Just Do It’. Perhaps you have values around patience, persistence and determination? Your ability to identify problems and your …
Is ‘Keeping Calm and Carrying On’ causing Stress? – Here’s some information that will help – It’s OK to have feelings, use them as information, and say what you need. Perhaps you have values around ‘toughing it out’, staying emotionally …
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Is your ‘Race to Fit it All In’ causing Stress? – Here’s some information that will help – It’s OK to take your time. Perhaps you have values around speed, efficiency and responsiveness? The way you seem to ‘enjoy’ having …
Is always saying ‘Yes’ at work causing Stress? – Here’s some information that will help – You’re OK to ‘Please Yourself’. Perhaps you have values around being kind, providing a great service or not ‘making people feel bad?’ Because you …
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