Problems at Work?

Work takes up so much of our daily lives. So if work ‘isn’t right’ it can become a great burden. For many of us the experience of work leaves us with feelings of dissatisfaction, frustration, tiredness or anxiety. We may be angry with our colleagues or organisation, burnt out by the demands placed on us, regretful that we always seem to be losing our temper with colleagues or scared and hurt by an office bully.

Widespread experiences of work

Do you often find yourself;

  • Coming home from work then going over and over the events of the day, perhaps with a partner?
  • Lying awake with memories of the day still being replayed or fantasies about tomorrow being ‘previewed’?
  • Working late in order to get everything done?
  • Feeling isolated and unsupported by colleagues?
  • Phoning in ‘sick’ with complaints you wouldn’t take to your GP?
  • Using alcohol or other substances to ‘unwind’?
Work was never meant to be this way

Borrowed-in ideas about work

Our livelihood may have become a way to play out messages about life we’ve learnt from our families or culture;

Do we hold onto beliefs like;

  • hard work never hurt anyone
  • money doesn’t buy you happiness
  • just keep calm and carry on
  • that’s not for the likes of us

Do we have preconceptions about what work will mean like;

  • You start at the bottom and work hard ‘till you reach the top
  • Work is a struggle, no-one likes it, you just have to put up with it
  • If you’re not a shining star (musician, academic, lawyer…) you’re not enough yet

Do we deny ourselves ‘permissions’ at work like;

  • not taking responsibility, inviting others to set our duties or solve our problems
  • not taking holidays
  • not ‘joining the team’
  • saying ‘Yes’ when we mean ‘No’

I know that a shift towards our vocation or talent can seem like an impossible dream especially if we have financial and family responsibilities. We ask; “How can I ever follow this calling?” Another block may arise around the theme of ‘being realistic’.

A different paradigm

Work was never meant to be like this. The world of work is a stage and our part in this drama is our chance to perform. The role we choose needs to match our personality, our talents and our limitations. Our performance will be magical when we play it fully with energy and grace. And the applause, the accolades which follow naturally, will not only mean financial security but a sense of achievement and satisfaction. I believe that this is what each of us truly deserves.

You have a ‘calling’

You may have met people who knew from an early age that they wanted to be a nurse or a chef or a builder. They have a ‘vocation’, which means a ‘calling’. ‘Vocations’ often include an element of ‘service’ – i.e. the work is about serving others in some sense. There is also often an element of ‘creativity’, whether this is creating buildings, businesses, great art, great food or helping others create their life like a teacher or midwife.

I believe that each of us has a calling. And there is part of us that knows what our true calling is. Work can be exciting, satisfying and rewarding if we take time to discover what that part of us has known all along.

Work can be a source of satisfaction, and even joy

Making a start…

There are some great books and DVD’s out there on creative career design which can help to uncover our true direction. A personal favourite is ‘Zen and the Art of Making a Living’ by Laurence G. Boldt (ISBN 0140195998) or check out Laurence’s website at

Additionally, if you can see patterns of behaviour at work that seem to be a barrier between your present and the future you truly deserve then maybe some counselling would help. Counselling may be of great benefit in going beyond these barriers as part of your creative journey towards your vocation.

If work is causing you pain there’s no need to keep doing work in the same way. Send me an email using the contact form below; Let’s arrange a time to talk about your specific needs and how we might work together.